How to deal with a negative person you really love?
There is really only one way to deal with negative people. Stay away.
Negative people who are close to you are worse than enemies/ competitors. They will suck the life out of you with their mere vibe. They will demotivate you, multiply your deepest insecurities and make you feel like a piece of shit. Any conversation or debate with such people will end up leaving you miserable. I find it best to just stay away from them as much as I can.
But, what happens if this person is someone you really care about? A friend, a sibling, a family member- it could be anyone. What if this person is someone you can’t imagine letting go of?
What if you have invested years in this relationship and it’s just sad to even think that the bond you guys once shared has become a mere formality with deep resentments on both sides.
Every step you take, every move you make, is another opportunity to find a fault with what you do. They don’t pass on the slightest opportunity to embarrass you in front of others. Now, this may or may not be intentional. Just saying! They don’t even realise you are hurting inside and that makes you sadder.
If you do try talking it out, there is a classic case of “reverse victim” drama which you don’t want to get into. Unless you want to hear things like “ Why do you always blame me for everything?”
Every achievement you make passes off like nothing but every screw up is highlighted nicely in your face. There are times we feel obliged to maintain relationships with such people and try hard to make peace with it. We have our own reasons for doing this, that person might be family that you just can’t cut off or you feel you owe him/her something.
And then one day it hits you, it finally hits you that nothing is more important than your peace of mind, and anything that threatens your peace is not worth holding on to. Once you realize this, and start your journey of separating yourself from such bullshit, you will give yourself the time to heal those scars. It’s not an easy road to travel, but it will be well worth it. You will always love this person, but you will find a way to love yourself more to move away from any form of negativity.
“There is really only one way to deal with negative people. Stay away.”