Easy, dangerous and toxic actions — Blaming ourselves and comparing with others!

Dixita Patel
Sep 1, 2018 · 3 min read

It’s funny but it’s the fact that we can easily pacify others doubts or problem. When it comes to our bad situations in life, we always try to pamper ourselves. Stop pampering yourself!!!

We are not here to just sit and think “why everything is happening to me? Am I the one with all the faults??” NOO, not at all. We always tend to blame ourselves for the bad things happening to us, and it becomes easy to overlook all the progress/good things we have done so far. Self-love is key to everything.

Instead of blaming yourself, accept what is occurring in your life. You should never try to ignore your situation. Rather, look for ways to improve it. Sometimes you need to be practical and mature. It’s also totally fine if you feel like crying, sometimes we just need to cry out the negative thoughts.

You are your own best guide. Never let your happiness be defined by the attitude of other individuals towards you. If you care too much about what others think, you will be stuck at each step of your journey!

Today, I realized that you are your greatest strength. You don’t have to find the happiness or strength from others, and no one understands you better than yourself. When your mind starts building expectation on others, take a step back. Think about why you want that, and if you really want that! Sometimes you feel good talking to others, but at the end you will go back home alone. Love yourself enough that you don’t get the chance to think about others to love you.

God made us. You are a beautiful soul so enjoy your life in your own way. You don’t have to do anything to make others happy — people will become happy if we stay happy; positive attitudes spread positive thoughts in others too. But, sometimes you need to accept something happening in life, because many times by staying positive you ignore those problems instead of solving them. We are human with emotions, things might go wrong. Don’t blame yourself or to God. He gave you those struggles because he knows you’re capable enough to handle those; every single human is capable to handle anything they can think of.

Everyone dreams of a happy and comfortable life. It’s easy to compare our own journeys with others, but everyone has their own clock. Don’t compare your time with others. If you are suffering from something right now then believe me, they also walked this same road at some point. No one looks or ask for how much you struggled to get to the success point, they just look into the confidence you gain after achieving. There lies a backstory in everyone’s life, some people are open book while for others it’s tough to summarize them. So, never ever judge anyone from the way they behave at a particular time, you don’t know actually what’s actually going on in their life.

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