Stu Chisholm
Aug 27, 2017 · 2 min read

As a massage therapist, I completely agree that touch is not only nice, but a vital necessity. There is study after study showing that people who hug and engage in other forms of touch (including more frequent sex) are healthier and live longer than those who do not. Sadly, some of the people who find their way onto my table have confided that they only time they feel human contact is during their massage sessions.

Personally, I think that sex isn’t just one way. Like food, sometimes you want something fast and maybe not so good for you, whereas other times you want the five-star, full-course variety. Nothing wrong with a quick bag of fries during a busy day. But for those times where you DO want to enjoy a nice, prolonged, slow-sex session, I personally focus on my partner rather than “the divine.” I like attuning my breath to hers; attuning my heart rhythm and feeling the subtle changes in skin, temperature, and even lymph movement. At that moment, she IS my universe. If not, then why am I there at all? I also think that everything is a goal, and even when you’re not looking exclusively to achieve some sort of orgasm, you will achieve something, or again, why are you there? For me, it’s bonding, expressing love and positivity; it’s regeneration, or as the old saying goes, it’s like “kicking death in the ass while singing.” It’s about REALLY plugging-into another human being on every level. Of course, that’s just my perspective. Thank you SO much for sharing yours! Some very good thoughts there.

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    Stu Chisholm

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    DJ, columnist for Mobile Beat Magazine, author, Licensed Massage Therapist, faculty of Irene’s Myomassology Inst., Certified Firearms Instructor/RSO.