It might come as a shock, but a lot of men feel the exact same things. We have the same insecurities. Many have similar upbringing, being ours is a predominantly Christian culture. (And if you’re a Muslim, it’s even worse!) Then come the horror stories of STDs, pregnancies, etc. How can we not be terrified by our first sexual experience? If it wasn’t for our inherent need — we simply cannot ignore our sex drive — we might take a pass completely!

It’s time to stop feeling bad. Studies have shown that babies who are held are better adjusted than babies who aren’t. We also know that people who hug are happier and healthier than people who don’t. In short, there’s a mountain of evidence showing that physical contact with other human beings is good for us. It doesn’t always have to be sexual, but it does have to BE. Everytime you give, you also receive. So by all means, be smart about it. Be communicative. But be in the game. It’s not only empowering, but you’ll be happier and live longer.