maybe the real key is to quit trying to convert anyone from right to left left to right etc. or feminist vs patriarchal whatever. They are just words and phrases that carry a lot of baggage and nobody is very receptive to being told their whole life view is all jacked up.. right?
So maybe at this point in the game we all need to talk about issues that are important to us, be a little flexible, try to find solutions that enable everyone to win something (or lose equally), compromise and stop trying to add spots to a zebra.
just a thought