Entitlement, Judgement, and You

Miss Milan @milan.ism
3 min readSep 14, 2017

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Why do we have so much entitlement over the decisions of others?

As though it weren’t enough to secretly judge from the corner, it is our duty this decade to publicly decry any offender, antagonist, or other purveyor of percepetual perversion. But does that necessity speak to a deeper signifier about who we are?

Bred in the culture of celebrity gossip, deemed in the early days as “tabloid news”, the casting of opinion over stranger seemed to be harmless shop talk. Over the years though, it has culminated a culture of website warriors and t r o l l s who gladly wake up each morning to stake their claim in the latest happenings of their least (used loosely) favorite celeb. People spend hours analyzing the actions of businessmen, teachers, athletes, musicians, and well known clergymen alike. And why…?

For what goal?

Is it to reach out and give someone the courage to better themselves? Is it to offer support in times of crisis or injustice? In a few instances, yes. (I am a firm believer in the attempt to acknowledge both sides with objectivity). But the sad truth is that millions of people are so afraid to seek their own happiness that they allow seeds of bitterness and envy to grow inside of them. It’s that hesitation to double tap a photo of a friend who may be progressing rapidly in their career. It’s that tiny voice in the mind that begins to find reasons to discredit a colleague’s accomplishment. These type of notions never scream; rarely are they more loud than a whisper. It’s that first moment of question that leads to a rationalizing irrationalities.

We struggle to acknowledge our entire selves and the totality of circumstance, thereby making it difficult to see when self righteousness appears. We find it difficult to hold a mirror to self and truly analyze who we are in that moment, afraid of the disappointment that lies at the end of the lies we have told ourselves.

And under the guise of “Everyone is entitled to their opinion”, no less we find an outlet for our judgement, hate, bitterness, and cynicism. One thing Ben Carson said that I never forgot, “Small minds discuss people, medium minds discuss things, and great minds discuss ideas”. When you take inventory of who you are, the conversations that you hold, where can you find yourself among the spectrum?

Understand that the things we say, the people we surround ourselves with are all direct reflections of the pieces of who we are. So when you put the pieces together, who are you?

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