I’m sorry about your experience. Mums over certain age seem to have fixation with their daughters bodies. I was 110 lbs (lbs!) and my mum (twice my weight) drove me into anorexia aged 16.
Question is, why do you still care? Why is her approval needed? She is not the goddess that we see our mothers when we are young and needy & depending on them for life itself. She is a frailing woman who is ossified in her thinking. She loves you, I am certain of it. She is helpless, unable to change her ways.
Time is approaching for the change in the relationship balance: you must ready yourself to accept her as she is.
For that, you must work through your pain, first. Find a good therapist. It works. I promise.
