We might be only living once or we might not , but at least we can make it better with each others while we are still alive in this life .

I have few friends , I don’t know what is it to call , but it is a kind of a problem , it’s not only in them but I found it 
in myself too , we all have it in a different way , some people call it fear , some call it demons , some call it misconceptional behavior , some calls it their old memories haunting them or their past fears haunting them.

My mother wasn’t well educated but she used to tell me some kinda self made up stories as an example of human behaviours to 
make me understand what are people.

I remember she once told me a story , that once upon a time there was an elephant , for the lack of better word “a baby 
elephant” , the story was saying that when he was young he went nearby a river and found a mouse , and he was amazed by 
seeing this small cute little creature, so he went forward to it and tried to engage with the mouse , but the mouse ran too 
suddenly and towards him and climed onto the young elephant , because of it was out of the young elephants expectation , he 
was then confused and frightened because he thought the mice was trying to attack him in some way , so of course he got 
confused , lost his balance and fell into the sea. And luckily there was a log in the sea and the young elephant could hold 
on to it and survived with it. Years later , the young elephant saw the same mouse and the mouse tried to engage the 
elephant again but the grown elephat was afraid of it and he ran away like escaping from zombies you see in biohazard.The 
thing is they could never communicate due to their differentiate of species but the grown elephant never knew the mouse 
wanted to climb next to his ears and wanted to tell the elephant that it wanted them just to become friends.

The story above is what I heard from my Mom and don’t know where does it originate from.

But taking a sample from the story above I realized that many of my friends , including my self are suffering from same kind of misconceptions we had in our life .

Many of my friends are from different backgrounds ,different ethnics , some are very traditional and some are very 
transcultural ,they studied in different schools , they work in different fields , they have different kinds of economical 
status , different hobbies and they are both males and females.
We all have different skills and have abilities that people could see and will think we are very good at it , but we all 
have some ( I call it limitations in our mind ). Its a kind of boarder , if you stay inside , you will feel safe and if you 
go outside of it you will definitely make a big change in your life . DONT BE MISTAKEN , ITS VERY DIFFERENT FROM GETTING OUT 
OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. Because you know out of your comfort zone , you are going to gain something .But this thing is 
different , no matter how smart you are , you will have the misconception and you will not cross that boarder , because you 
have experienced it before and you know you will be in a threat situation.But most of the times , that’s not the case.

One of my friend had a burn on her face when she went overseas for studying and she thinks if she gets back to her boyfriend 
, he will definitely hate her because every people in her school looks at her differently since she got her face burned.So 
she never takes the risk to even talk to him , she doesn’t want to feel the hurt.

Another friend is a Chinese , she respects her parents too much , she is about to be 30 years old ,even though she is a 
successful business women but she is not good in expressing herself , her parents always tell her to get married but the 
same time they tell her she’s never gonna get married because of her personality , she could not express her feelings , her 
parent’s are telling her that so that she knows her own bad points in her soicial life and so she could change it. And 
because of that she gets drunk every time she overthink about it because she believes by her self that she is not good in 
acting or showing elegance and compassion to others and also believes that no one in the world understands her. So the loop 
goes on and on. But a simple solution to this is to keep on acting with people and show the correct feeling expressions in 
the right time to the people so that it won’t cause unnecessary misunderstanding. She can practice that by trying it infront 
of mirrors but just because of its her misunderstanding belief , she thinks it’s never possible for a person like her. So 
she gives up and get drunks all the time.
Some of the other stories I learned are the sources of misconceptions and misunderstandings towards certain things in their 
life which not only caused them to get lazy in their life , get upset all the time , not proactive but even made them to 
suicide.

Taking the two examples I have stated above , I think people should understand that before you try to become a smartest 
person on earth and judging yourself or your friends even your enemies just by the way they look , they talk , they express 
themselves or how they were born. Just know that you have the right to judge them for your ease of recognizing your allies 
and enemies and useless people around you or just to get along within a mind bubble in a group of people , but also mind 
that your judgements might not be as accurate as you think. There are always something hidden in the people around you or 
the steps that you can take which can let you learn something from it or gain something from it which you have 
misconceptionalized or misunderstood or judged it or just simply afriad of it.
I just think people shouldn’t limit their possibilities in their life because of their thoughts , because of their genetic 
differences , because of their educational status , their economical status , their health status , their appearance , their 
lack of communications skills , their lack of friends in their life , their lack of certain skills or certain qualities in 
their life .

I would suggest that do take your competitors seriously in your life , but don’t take them as your enemies even though they are going 
to affect you in your life , but mind this , your competition is not them , they are just the reference for you in your life 
on how to do certain things so that you can learn from them or learn from the experience to compete with them and get 
improved and strong and move on to another level in your life. The real competition is not with them , it is with your own 
thoughts that’s limiting you. I believe we are all born different externally , our life is different in many ways , but 
internally we all have the same qualities in us , it’s just up to us to discover those qualities.

I myself am not a writer or a psychologist , I just do practice meditation sometimes and wrote the article above just based 
on my pure intuition and experience of my life time. I myself have lot’s of emotional limitations in my life and don’t know 
how to overcome it , that’s my limitation and I know this problem is a joke to other people in their life , so do I believe 
that others have some limitations that will be a certain joke for me.And I don’t know maybe this article could be expressed 
in a very short article with using some good vocabulary , but sorry that’s not where I am very good at. I just couldn’t find 
out someone talking about this anywhere online or in my social life , therefore I wanted to express it in my own way to 
everyone so that they could know more about themselves.

I just hope everyone realizes what I stated above and try to understand and support the people around them and don’t make 
them feel alone . I have seen it alot and I believe no body wants to lose the people they want to be around them. So please 
everyone put some attention to the people around you and have some confidence in your self , always seek support if you need 
, maybe someone you were most afraid from might help you out like an angel you have never imagined of.

I am used to be a kinda quiet person all the time , but after watching too much of things happening , for the sake of humanity , I think I have to speak my mind.

We might be only living once or we might not , but at least we can make it better with each others while we are still alive in this life .