Why is ‘Gay’ Still a Bad Word?

GayRefresh.com aims to take the derogatory definition of the word ‘gay’ out of our vernacular, and the dictionary.

The word ‘gay’ has for too long been used colloquially to mean something is wrong or bad or not cool. It is time we all trained the phrase ‘That’s so gay’ out of our brains. GayRefresh.com is a website that when refreshed gives a new word or phrase to say instead. Sharing the millions of other ways to express our frustration and annoyance without offending a whole section of society. There’s also the option to suggest your own ‘that’s so…’ to say instead.

1 in 5 Admit to Discriminative Remarks

A definition to be forgotten. Every major dictionary lists the offensive definitions because of it’s prevalent use.

We are all guilty of letting a ‘That’s so gay’ slip now and again, and while most of us don’t mean any harm by it, it’s not a nice thing for those who identify as gay to hear. Stonewall and YouGov found 1 in 5 admit to making offensive remarks about LGBTQ people and 60% wouldn’t step in if they overheard something*. It makes associations like bad, rubbish, and something that isn’t quite right. But to say ‘that’s so gay’, that’s not right.

It’s up to all of us to stop using the word ‘gay’ in that way. And if there was ever a time to refresh the word ‘gay’, it is today. The LGBTQ community has made spectacular progress in recent years with many countries legalising same sex marriage and greater inclusion of LGBTQ issues in the media and entertainment. But all this is let down by the word ‘gay’ being used negatively in our daily lives. It’s up to all of us to train that phrase out of our brains. And out of our playgrounds, workplaces, public spaces and homes.

Submit and tweet (@TheGayRefresh) your ’That’s so…’ to get us another word closer to ‘gay’ never being used in a derogative way again.

If we succeed in saying something instead, when our children grow up they’ll be surprised we ever used the word ‘gay’ in a detrimental way.

*Stonewall and YouGov Survey

All figures, unless otherwise stated, are from YouGov Plc. Total sample size was 2,008 adults. Fieldwork was undertaken between 29th — 30th October 2015. The survey was carried out online. The figures have been weighted and are representative of all GB adults (aged 18+).

• Over 60 per cent of those surveyed admit to not intervening when they heard derogatory comments in the past year

• One in five people admit to making offensive remarks about LGBT people in the past year

  • Research shows women twice as likely to confront someone they hear making offensive comments
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