Holding Patterns

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Photo by Jen Theodore on Unsplash

For a few weeks, I’ve not been able to creatively write — anything.

It’s taken every ounce of energy to write papers for my doctoral program, and to tell the truth, I probably would have taken a pause if I could have — but I’m glad I didn’t. Everything has just taken more effort.

Over the last eight weeks my home, like many others in the United States, has shifted from a place of comfort where we congregate at the beginning and the end of the day to a place where we stay all day. My daughters’ one-week spring break turned into a two-week break, then virtual school from home. My husband’s job changed to work from home, then furlough. …


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Sharing your dreams is hard, even when there is a benefit to sharing them and moving past the fear, it’s hard. The fear of the unknown is real. That fear is the feeling you get in your gut when you know there is new territory ahead. There’s a fear of the danger. But we are also attracted to that danger. That’s the reason why we do things which are scary, like go sky diving or watch a horror movie.

The fear comes from wondering how the person you are sharing your dream with will react. Will they reject your dream? Or support them? …


A complete process—with prioritization worksheets—to plan a season of true joy with your family

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Photo by JillWellington via Pixabay.

Work-life balance does not exist. It never has, and it never will. This is especially true during the holidays and — believe it or not — that time will be upon us soon.

I believed in this farce and chased the work-life balance life lie, and I lived a cranky and exhausted life—especially during the holidays—until I made a change.

The memories you are making with your family are meaningful each day of the year, but often during the holidays, they feel more urgent. Wanting to have a picture-perfect holiday, though, causes stress and steals your joy.

Every day, we have to decide which item will take our focus, and those can cause either positive or negative stress. But ultimately, it’s up to you to decide which responsibility will have your attention on that day or at that moment. You are choosing the stress of the day. …

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Donita Brown

Professor, Working Mom Encourager, and Author: https://amzn.to/2LWeuBM

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