28 Life Lessons I’ve Learned for 28 Years…
I turned 28 today.
For 28 years I learned a ton from different experiences, people, courses, books, articles, videos, movies, songs, and more.
I still have so much to learn. But here are 28 of what I’ve learned so far in no particular order. I hope you can pick up a lesson or two!
1. Honesty is not always rewarded, be honest anyway.
People always say they want the truth. But when you tell them, they’ll hate you. Sometimes, you won’t be appreciated for your honesty. Be honest anyway. Being honest is not just about telling the truth, it’s also about living in truth.
Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes- unknown
2. Seeking to be understood is a futile endeavor.
As a teenager, I was dying to be understood. Just like the usual cry of any teen, I felt like no one understood me.
Now that I’m 28, most people still don’t understand me, and that’s okay. No matter how pure your intentions are, no matter what you do, there’ll always be people who will misunderstand you.
Don’t wait for people’s understanding or approval. You’ll never get it. If you know deep in your heart that you’re doing the right thing for you, keep doing it.
3. You can learn from anyone.
“Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.”― Bill Nye
I was noisy when I was young. I was always called out for screaming too loud and gossiping with my seatmate.
As I grew older I learned to shut up and listen. I learned to learn from anyone.
Never be too proud to think you can’t learn anything from someone. Never be too proud to do all the talking. Listen and learn.
4. Consistency is crucial.
I always had a problem with consistency. I started so many undertakings without following through.
I’m still at the early stage of building my consistency muscle, but I’m already reaping benefits. To understand the value of consistency, check this article by Anthony Moore: Consistency Beats Talent, Luck, Good Intentions, and Even Quality.
5. Health is paramount.
Even as a nurse, I never really gave health the value it deserves. The adage “Health is wealth” speaks for itself. All your riches will be useless if you end up debilitated with a disease that can be prevented with a healthy lifestyle.
It’s so easy to abuse our bodies when we don’t feel pain. It’s easy to take health for granted until you get sick.
6. You have to love numbers.
I always hated Math; I barely passed all my Math-related subjects in College. I convinced myself I’m not good at it and I was very vocal about my dislike for numbers.
But I realized it’s stupid to hate Math. I cannot run away from numbers. If I’ll do, I won’t be able to fully reach my potential. Quantity matters. Measurements matter. Money is expressed in numbers. Even the bible is so precise with numbers. Numbers are the only accurate way to validate progress.
Nicolas Cole said: Without measurement, your efforts will leave you feeling like you’re doing A LOT without getting much DONE.
7. Being a parent will change you. The kind of change depends on you.
There are not enough adjectives in the dictionary to define how parenting feels like. But one thing’s for sure, it will change you. If it makes you better or worse, is up to you. I hope you choose better.
8. You’re gonna die.
People are living their lives like they have unlimited time. —Gary Vaynerchuk
What are you going to do with your life knowing that you’re gonna die? Do it.
9. Life is short.
Many of us are guilty of saying this cliche but only a few are acting on it.
“Tomorrow is promised to no one. Prioritize today accordingly.”
― Gina Greenlee
10. This too shall come to pass.
No matter how big, painful, and heartbreaking your problem is. It will pass. Your agony will end. Your pain can even turn to something beautiful.
11.There are more good people in the world.
Good people seldom make it on the news. The corrupt officials and criminals are all over your news feed and national TV. But they’re not everywhere. Good people are everywhere.
12. Ordinary day is good news.
I don’t complain of boredom now as much as I complained when I was young. Boring is good. It means you’re not in trouble. It means your house is not on fire. It means your loved ones are still around.
13. Don’t chase love.
“Two things you will never have to chase: True friends & true love.” ― Mandy Hale
Don’t chase love. Your true love won’t run away.
14. You cannot give what you do not have.
Beware of the naked man who offers you clothes- African Proverb
I learned this the hard way. Being generous is great; but only if you have something to give. You cannot give happiness if you aren’t happy. You cannot give peace if you’re not at peace. Fill your cup first, and then you can let it overflow to others.
15. Appearance matters.
No matter how some people deny it. Looks do matter, but it is not everything. It’s sad that we sometimes treat others based on how they look. But it’s reality.
This talk by Cameron Russel sets appearance in a better perspective:
16. You cannot care about everything and stay sane. You cannot care about nothing and stay human.
I’ve read this somewhere. But I forgot the source. Google can’t tell me the source either. You have to care. But you cannot care about everything. Learn to choose your business and keep your nose on your own business.
Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.
- 1 Thessalonians 4:11
17. You can learn anything.
You can learn ANYTHING you want if you’re determined enough. This inspiring story of Alvaro Videla, How I went from selling food in the street to working for top firms in tech proves that lack of resources is not an excuse to educate yourself.
18. You don’t have to learn everything.
There won’t be enough time in your life to learn everything. So choose what you really want to learn and master it.
19. People don’t know what you’re thinking.
Stop assuming that people know what’s on your mind. They don’t, so tell them.
20. You don’t know what people are thinking.
Don’t assume you know what’s going on in people’s mind. Ninety-nine percent of the time, you’re wrong. And, it’s not your job to know what’s on people’s minds.
21. 4,175 steps only burn 100 calories.
I just found this out yesterday. Like I told in number 6, I hated numbers. I didn’t calculate my finances in detail. How much more with the calories I burned.
I’m glad I started counting my physical steps. I tend to overestimate the calories I burn from my activities, I know I’m not the only one!
22. 1 cup of rice is 206 calories.
This information hurts so much. I’m a Filipino, we eat rice three times a day.
Knowing how much calories rice, cakes, and chocolates contain and what it can do to my body is so painful for me. I’ve become so attached to sweets. My friends know how much I love chocolates and how fast I can eat one. But I have to let go, my body and brain can’t take it anymore.
23. Haters gonna hate.
You only have to read the comment section of a wonderful video to know this. It’s funny but sad that there are people who’ll say hateful stuff to absolutely wonderful and innocent events, pictures, and stories.
Don’t be discouraged by haters, they’re not your tribe. Press on for those who believe in you.
24. There are people who love you, no matter what.
No matter who you are, no matter what you do.
25. Everyone needs to be loved.
Even the toughest person you know.
To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow — this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert
26.Anyone can change. But not everyone will.
We all have the power to change, some just aren’t willing. Said, Brian Brewington
27. Everyone thinks they’re right.
We’re trained that being wrong is shameful. So we became adults who feel like we’re always right. You don’t have to be right all the time, because you aren’t. Here’s the best piece about being wrong that I’ve watched so far.
28. You can trust God.
Believing in God goes beyond logic and understanding. I cannot explain to you in Science how He exists. But I hope you can feel the joy, peace, and purpose I found when I accepted Jesus in my heart. You can trust God.
That’s it for now! Happy Birthday to me :)
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