So… It Turns out You Can’t Control Everything?

Oct 9, 2018 · 3 min read

Brandon Leonhard

For most of us, life seems to throw curveballs during unexpecting times. Sometimes you hit that curveball out of the park, and sometimes you strike out. For me, the biggest curveball of my life came my way when I was 19 years old with the passing of my father. I was really not sure how I should act. There was a lot of grieving, a lot of confusion and sadness, but ultimately I knew I had to have a positive outlook on life. With the support of my family and friends, I tried my best to hit the curveball out of the park, just like my dad taught me when I was in little league. It turns out, the toughest time in my life is where I was able to learn the most about myself. I learned how to focus on what makes me happy and to not let the little things get me down.

I was studying engineering in college at this point in my life, and the way I was taught to think about engineering problems turned me into an analytical thinker in my personal life. However, my thought process lead me to over-analyze a lot of situations in my life, sometimes leading to unnecessary stress. Whether this be in my personal life or in the workplace, I’ve had to findways to cope. So how did I cope? I used my analytical thought process and came up with a foolproof way for me to be less stressed and more focused. Anyone can do this if you really put your mind to it.

It goes a little something like this… You identify what is stressing you out and you ask yourself “Can I do anything about it?” If the answer is “Yes”, then you DO something about it and repeat until you’re not stressed. If the answer is “No”, then you need to train your mind to let it go. The logic is simple, if you physically cannot do anything about what is stressing you out, then you technically should not be stressing, right? I’ll admit, the first few times you apply this to your life, you may feel like a crazy person talking to yourself trying to convince yourself not to stress. However, I promise it gets easier as time goes on and you can feel yourself worrying less and less about things you cannot control, which allows you to spend time on the things you can control.

It turns out, this mindset and thought process has helped me in my life in more ways than I could have ever imagined. I have been able to stress less and focus on being happy, which ironically helped land me a job at DoubleMap. In my interview with the company in early 2016, I was asked what I was looking for in a job and employer. My answer was simply that I wanted to be happy and enjoy what I was doing. Work is a huge part of my life and if I’m not enjoying my work, then I am not optimizing my time on this earth. Since joining DoubleMap, I have been able to work with amazing people, travel the world for meetings and conferences, learn from leaders in the industry, and grow as a professional. Now that I’m in my new role as a Customer Success Representative I get to interact with awesome clients day in and day out. I work with our clients to solve any issues they have and get to offer my expertise of our products to optimize their systems. I have clients in most US states, Canada, and a few in Australia which keeps my job interesting. Putting everything together, when you can focus on being happy and find work that you enjoy, it’s a recipe for success.

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