Over my lifetime (I’m approaching 60), I have gone from a very chivalrous young man to a wiser man who thinks twice before helping a woman out in any way at all. That’s not to say I will not help but there is a concious calculation that means I may decide not to.
The major difference in how I was and how I am is not my age. My change in attitude to women in society is due to society’s change in attitude to me. From before I was 20, I was accused of being a rapist simply because I am male. By the time I was 30, I was aware that had few marital rights and no parental rights. In my 40s, I was divorced by a woman I still loved but who decided, with society’s and the laws’ help, that I should be ripped from my family, my income, and my savings. In my 50s I have fought for men’s rights and family unity against a feminist tide of opinion and policy-making that is at the same time claiming victimhood for women, entitlement for women, superiority of women, and the oppression of women by men.
As more and more families are torn asunder, the behaviour of the next generation becomes more and more wild – less and less civilised. I often read that women need a role models in specific careers in order to be encouraged to enter that career themselves; I hear little about boys needing a role model in their family in order to be brought up into society as a whole, healthy human.
‘We’ do need to be teaching men and boys not to be violent. But it is hard to believe that someone who makes the statement that men must be told not to be violent is genuinely trying to improve society when what society needs is that we teach women, men, girls and boys – all of them – not to be violent, either verbally or physically. It is also hard to believe that somebody is genuine in wanting to help society when the emphasis is on 20,000 victims who happen to be female rather than when the emphasis is on 250,000 victims who happen to be male. Either the majority is important, or everyone is important but there can be little to justify sexist misandry against those victims who are 10 times more populous.