The little girl and the bull.
I think you make some really important points here. And I can certainly feel your passion and frustration. However there is little written here which inspires any sense that positive work can be done to resolve gender inequity.
The first thing which I want to say as a man is that I am not all men. No man is all men. And there are many men who can see no justification for the present state and who work towards changing things. My message to those women who wish to do positive work in this area is to seek out such men, encourage them to do more and actively assist them to improve their understanding of the issues and barriers.
The second thing I want to say, without in any way countering your point about the importance of connecting the dots between patron, artist and artwork, is that art and artistic expression is owned by all humanity. That is we are all empowered to create whatever art we wish and we each can interpret any created art form in whatever way we choose. My emotional reaction to any work of art is mine and mine alone. The Piéta was commissioned by the Catholic Church and fashioned by Michelangelo. It is beautiful. For me it simply reminds me of the pain a parent feels after the loss of a child. It encourages me to be kinder. I am aware that it conveys much deeper meaning to others. The little girl facing down the bull will do the same and I believe it will positively encourage those who can act to make a difference. In this reductionist age of memes and visual representation, those who wish to drive change must embrace art in all its forms ( and irrespective of its source) and convey their chosen interpretation of its meaning as a lightening rod to support their cause. And to win, they need to do it better than others who would resist change.
I live in the U.K. It is a little better than the U.S. in terms of gender equity but still disappoints when compared with the Nordic Countries. Without hesitation, I admire the Nordic Countries. I envy their achievement. It should therefore be natural that I would want to learn from them, imitate them, modify their practices where necessary to fit with my local circumstances and become them. Our policy makers can do the same if we require that they do so. Keep fighting!