What if women were taught to feel confident in their pleasure, to believe, like men, that sex can be as long or as short as they want or need it to, that it can be as much focused on the clitoris — the whole clitoris — as the penis, and that any way they come is a good way to come? What if this book and this one and this one were taught in schools? What if we taught young people of all sexes and genders that they are entitled to pleasure and even entitled to orgasm, but not at the expense of (or even with) another person?
During 2017, I talked several men through suicidal episodes over a dozen times. Almost all of their suicidal thoughts revolved around a misconception that they were incapable of having or maintaining healthy relationships, and that their children and loved ones would be better off without them.