David Cearley, I totally agree.
JC Caine
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I am an Associate Prof where I teach and research trauma and traumatic grief. I have also endured my own personal traumas, including sexual assault, but most potently the death of my child. In the weeks and months after her death, I was “triggered” every time someone walked past me holding the hand of a child her age. It was enduring those moments of inexplicable suffering that, over time, helped me cultivate the equanimity and emotional tolerance that would ultimately be the impetus for a career in academia and the founding of an international nonprofit that helps parents facing a child’s death. Key to this entire discussion is professorial compassion, honesty, and a willingness to confront painful subjects that oft evoke fear and terror — in a Beckerian sense — in the hearts of those privilege to have never endured such horror.