There’s a difference in intent between the hypothetical essay you pose (and I find working in hypotheticals to be shabby argumentation). As I don’t want to take the time to provide an entire back story of the complexity of my beliefs on the matter (the matter is not just black and white as we all know), I don’t *personally* believe that pitting Black against white is helpful; people being attacked for their privately racist comments is another topic that could warrant valid discussion; but you can’t compare apples and oranges (in hypotheticals). There will never be a day when a white person so longingly wants recognition of their humanity that they would need to swear off seeking romantic validation from Black people. White people don’t ever have to spit on a Black person if they don’t want to. Only dating other white people is never questioned; remember, it’s normal.

I agree that people all too easily take the break-down of prejudice as Black and white — when there are many levels of prejudice. But Anti-Blackness runs deeper than economics; in fact, Black success has worked to achieve the opposite of what you state —it has, over generations, made people angry (particularly economically less successful whites), and whether or not overt, actors have sought to undermine Black success. Anti-Blackness comes from aesthetics. All over the world. In all cultures. Black is the bottom of the caste. In different parts of history, the justification for disliking dark-skin takes many forms.

I see many problems with the current Black consciousness movement, but I don’t think, in this case, what Anthony talks about is anti-white racism. Love is hard, harder when you’re merely a social experiment to someone. I’m quite happy in my own bi-racial relationship, but that was really only because I left America. I understand, I get it, you’re “not into Black people”. A concept a white person will never have to digest. Because in America, I’m Black, then female, then human — in that order. I can’t solve that with education, a nice job, smiles and complacency in this life time. It’s more important that I find a way to love and be loved. I didn’t have to disengage from white people; but I definitely had to leave the country to find a way forward.