You are not who you used to be. I’m not who I used to be. We are all “becomers.” Let’s not get stuck part way. This is the forth in a series of articles that I’ve written as reflections on Michael Singer’s book Living Untethered, which is actually the third…

A caring connection is one of the most fundamental traits of any healthy relationship. Consider that for a moment. The people you have valued most in your life have been those who have connected with you in a caring way. A caring connection can be expressed, or not, by the…

Relationships at home and at work can be tricky to navigate. Being too close to each other can lead to anxiety about being engulfed, enmeshed, suffocated, and controlled by too much dependency and attachment. …

Over my 50-year career as a psychotherapist, I’ve been energized by a handful of popular “self-help books.” What attracts me is organized common sense. Most recently my attention has gone to three books, and some supporting multi-media content, from “Mickey” Singer. As I’ve worked with his materials, I’ve been able…

We all get stuck at times, trying to decide between one option and another. There are dilemmas that can only be solved by making an informed decision, but there are also dilemmas that can not be solved — they can only be managed. That’s where “Polarity Management” is a terrific…

Five decades ago, I read a quote — a mere 11 words in length — and the experience I had in that moment still moves my soul. The author, Viktor Frankle, never mentioned where those quoted words came from. I committed them to memory and wondered about their author for…

At first glance, this might seem like splitting hairs, but there is a critical difference between being responsible TO another — and being responsible FOR another. If you get them confused there can be a lot of heartache. Let’s first look at what President Obama said when he initiated “My…

Often I’ve been “the bastard calf at roundup” — the one that didn’t seem to belong here or there and wasn’t confidently claimed by others. A misfit in so many ways. It is exciting to realize that I’ve been invited into a place that really feels like home. My quest to integrate Environmentalism and Spirituality I was…