WILL THE DUST EVER BE SETTLED? NO. SO STOP WAITING FOR PEACE AND PERMANENCE TO START ENJOYING LIFE.
As humans we are obsessed with completion and permanence — obtaining that perfect girlfriend and keeping her forever, getting that perfect job and keeping it forever, of reaching a level of success and keeping it forever without consistent effort.
Permanence is a complete illusion. People are obsessed with it because we like the fantasy of ‘forever’ — the fantasy of achieving something and then being able to sit back, relax and be lazy. A problem-free life. We are so obsessed with this mirage that we convince ourselves that we can’t be happy until completion and permanence are met.
We are so obsessed and busy focussing on the mirage of what our lives are ‘supposed’ to look like, that we miss all the magic and beauty that flows through our lives in the process.
The problem is — nothing in life is permanent, success is earnt but then must be re-earnt, people come and go, challenges come and go, structures are created and then dissolve.
If you just dissolve that fantasy that ‘one day’ you will have a life free of challenge, attain everything you want and you will be complete, and just accept that life continuously goes through cycles of chaos and order, it frees you to be happy NOW.
Stop waiting, because one day you will realise life has passed you by and that fantasy of ‘making it’ either doesn’t exist or doesn’t make you as happy as you imagined.
Accept that there is good and bad, pros and cons, pleasure and pain in every situation, and become fully engaged in it even if it is painful, you grow so much more.
Start to enjoy pain and challenges. Realise that the pressure is like a diamond — it forces your focus inward, drives you deeper, and makes you evaluate what is really important.
When you are really stressed about something at work, remember that we are all going to die, we take nothing to the grave with us except our experiences, and then really evaluate if it’s worth ruining your day for.
Life is now, and this too shall pass.