Even if you’re not a particularly patient person today, there’s still hope you can be a more patient person tomorrow.
How to Be a More Patient Person
The New York Times
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Thank you for this article! I love this notion of a growth-mindset! I could even take it a step further and suggest that people separate themselves from the trait. Instead of saying “I am not patient person” — morph it into “I would like to feel more patient in situations like this.” State the positive intention, and your brain will immediately start to turn in that direction. I also love how you highlight that it is the story we tell ourselves about the situation that creates the emotional reaction. I find that in matters of impatience, it is usually a question of significance. That somebody feels frustrated and impatient that they must wait in this line, sit in this traffic, or otherwise be inconvenienced. It really is a “the world revolves around me” kind of sentiment. And I say that as somebody who used to catch myself with that feeling on a regular basis. Once I remember how fundamentally insignificant I am in the world — giving up self-importance — everything in life gets easier! I also acknowledge that the vast majority of the time, an impatient and emotional response makes everything about that situation worse, not better. Paradox theory comes into play — wanting a situation to be better is in and of itself a negative experience, while accepting a negative experience in and of itself makes that experience more positive. I wrote about that in reference to my own impatience in traffic one day while I was driving into work at Kennedy Space Center in FL (read more here: https://gallaheredge.com/itsnotyouitsme/). Thanks to Mark Manson for his pearls of wisdom related to that paradox.