Healing Our Emotions
What can you do — if you are dealing with a strong emotional situation — to avoid physical and psychological repercussions such as chronic pain? Dr. Wayne Phimister has some tips for you.
As a result of the experiences that I have been living this week, I decided to bring up to you the subject of emotional pain.
To sum up: what happened was that I successfully managed to sell my house, and not only that, but I actually separated from my wife for my own self-worth and to make a happier environment for both her and my four children.
So here I am in my new location talking to you about how to deal with emotional pain. I believe that this was the most raw emotional experience that I have ever lived after 48 years.
I have three lessons I want to share with you — lessons in healing my own life — lessons you can use to heal yours when you find yourself in a strong emotional situation.
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THE THREE LESSONS
THE FIRST TIP — FORGIVE OURSELVES
This first thing is necessary to deal with this kind of pain. We sometimes do things that we regret or could have done better; however, we must forgive ourselves. If we do not do that, it makes a mess with our brain.
It literally makes a mess in our limbic system, causing duress or stress, and can lead to emotional pain or physical pain.
Forgiveness can be a very difficult journey. We are the ones suffering from pain; so we are the ones that need to do something to fix it, and forgiveness is crucial for that.
‘Forgive For Good’, written by Fred Luskin, is a wonderful resource as he is a top researcher in the subject. I have recently read it in the last year and I truly recommend it.
THE SECOND TIP — ACCEPT WHAT HAS HAPPENED
The second tip is to accept and let go. Things are what they are and we need to live in the moment. Accept the situation, accept and do not judge it. It is what it is, and acceptance is the fundamental component of mindfulness. So, I believe that living in the moment is one of the most optimal ways because we get our mind out of the picture, and as a result, we can keep moving forward and heal our hearts.
Last night I was listening to Eckhart Tolle and just brought me that message of living in the moment. Personally, it has been a massive week in which I lived very strong emotional moments. I guess we all go through difficult moments and got our minds dealing with that. Therefore, the second piece of advice is that:
live in the moment and accept the situation you are living, cope with it and move forward for yourself.
THE THIRD TIP — BREATHING
In the third place, I will talk about breathing. I know I have been bringing up this topic for a while, but I think that it is truly important to talk about.
I have been doing it a lot and it really gave me results.
Just breathe in through your nose, count to five, and out through your mouth, and repeat.
It takes you to deeper levels of awareness and healing, not only to meditation or mindfulness levels, but on quantum energy level, an energetic level.
IN CONCLUSION
To conclude, these are the three points to exercise in order to cope with emotional pain. Benefits are multiple and you can take them as a constant methodology for your daily life. Dealing with emotions is difficult but there is always a way out and a true path to healing.
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Dr. Wayne Phimister is a family physician and associate professor at the Department of Family Medicine at the University of British Columbia in Canada
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READ: Conquering Chronic Pain: Solutions and Strategies for People Who Have Given Up Hope (now available on Amazon)
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