While social media and the latest dating apps feed us these fairy tale farces in bulk, the simple lesson we’re forgetting is this: True love is seeing all the flaws of another person and choosing to love them anyway.
“Yet you have your own flaws and shortcomings that make you difficult to love. We all do. We all…suck at some level. Yet, in the same breath that we demand unconditional love, we refuse to give that love to others. Do you see the problem?”
I hypothesized we were suffering from Brooks’ law. Brooks’ law states that adding more software developers to a late project makes it even later. We hired a lot of amazing developers who still needed to ramp up. As long as they are still getting up to speed they would be slowing other developers down.
There’s a subtle yet important difference between being supportive of your partner and being emotionally obligated to your partner. There’s a difference between coming to each other as individuals with free will, who add to each others’ lives — and depending on one another for care.