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Babafemi Jay Aderounmu
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  • First of all, what we call misandry today to the best of my knowledge is women saying they hate men as a response to misogyny or women saying ‘men are trash’. To be very honest, hating patriarchy for what it has done in with regard to rape culture, violence against women and other issues is quite rational. Someone said ‘men are afraid that women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them’. It may sound a tad dramatic but it brings me back to listening to the experiences. Also, bitter, angry, loud, offended and offensive people can be feminists too, all that energy can be part of the movement. I think we throw the word misandry around as a way to be defensive, almost like we are trying to imply ‘misandry’ as we see it is equal or even consequential like misogyny. So I am going to try to listen to your experience by asking if you could share one or two experiences of misandry that have affected your everyday life.
  • Feminism has grown to be something that tries to be inclusive and this has it’s down sides but allies shouldn’t try to dictate what feminism should mean to different individuals in the sense that everyone has one issue or the other they are passionate about. And while there are many issues that make headlines, I agree with you that there are issues tailored for smaller groups of people and that many conversations require context.
  • We often opine that because a movement is about fairness, it is quiet dialogue that can solve it, that is not the case, while privilege can make certain issues a quiet discourse for some, for others they are fighting for their lives. Let us listen.