“Experience these feelings and free yourself from them.” If this was something that people can do easily, no one would have any issues. But the reality is not so, what you propose can only work for some people, if any. Delving into the psychology of human beings, you will learn that tough love, meaning suck it up and deal doesnt produce the results we want. Learning from our emotions takes much longer then a second, there is a lot to process, as we are not made of just instinct but soul as well, and soul needs stories, needs the poetic, in order to be spiritual. A great resource is the book by Thomas Moore — Care of the Soul.