…rida, before finally settling down in suburban Boston. He was a pissed-off kid. Also, he was short. Eventually he found two outlets: fighting and telling jokes, which just so happen to be two things that can thrill some people at the same time as they’re really hurting others.
The trick to an Empath actually overcoming this cycle and being strong enough to leave, and heal, is to actually re-identify themselves with and fully feel their rage, and accept that they in fact cause harm, and are also allowed to feel rage, and lose their composure and care. That, yes, it is ok to “bark and bite” back, and use unskillful or imperfect means in setting a rage motivated boundary. It is ok to hurt the other’s feelings, and even use blame, if the other is indeed already going to have their feelings hurt anyways. It is indeed ok to acknowledge in this rage the powerlessness around being repeatedly manipulated into performing empathy and care up against an impossible, double standard of composure for the Empath, while the Narcissist rarely holds themselves accountable. That sometimes it is necessary to use aggression and force to get someone to finally back off, if they have felt entitled to your energy, time, and resources, and that this doesn’t make someone Narcissistic, irresponsible, or entitled, but rather is evidence of self-love and dignity.
…f white supremacy — since, until 1971 or so, that’s all American history consisted of. Yes, really. We foolishly lionize America as the world’s first democracy — but it’s truer to say America was the world’s first apartheid state, and France was the world’s first democracy (but I digress.)
…famous by exposing herself, then rich by selling those gross aspirations…right back to young girls? But that — hypersexualizing yourself, becoming all butts and boobs and no brain, to get rich and famous — isn’t just indistinguishable from patriarchy…it is patriarchy. So if your feminism is indistinguishable from patriarchy…is it feminism at all?)