Bare minimum, you’re relying on a big gesture to make up for all the little ones you probably didn’t do well before the relationship ended. And if you take out all the creepiness, that’s really what is wrong with the grand gesture. It seems like it takes so much effort, but really it’s lazy: It’s the opposite of what love really is—showing up every day and making little boring choices all the time to foster intimacy and connection.
Grand Romantic Gestures Suck
Tracy Moore
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Thank you! Pointing out those little boring choices which make intimacy and connection between both people happen. Yes, love is showing up. And all this “making up” for the “breaking up”.

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