If Jesus were with with us today I dont think he would be hanging out in churches. He would be hanging with the sinners and the people that are hurting. Hurt people hurt people. Jesus is a healer.
Jesus also said though that a man who will not work should not eat. WILL NOT work. A person must have the will to reach out and connect to other people and these young men if they want meaningful loving relationships with women they need to try. So many are too scared to try.
I think as a woman to combat this you need to reach out with love and acceptance. It disarms hatred. It shines light on the illusion of your own injustice.