That is why I like reading Emma Lindsay so much because this is exactly what I feel she does VERY well. She realizes the danger of a shame filled man and this is what makes male sexuality toxic in the first place. She celebrates male sexuality and having read some of her posts, I strongly believe she understands male sexuality.
She understands male sexuality better than any other woman I can recall ever meeting or reading. Part of that is her anxiety about male sexuality from being raped. I relate to this anxiety so well, not because of rape, but from other traumatic experiences I have had, I know that when something makes you anxious you can become obsessed with learning and researching everything you can about it.