Thanks for this. It’s a great read.
I think people get too hung up on grouping and labeling eachother and themselves. Just creating excuses to arbitrarily separate the us from the thems. While certain groups do need to be cautious who they let in, the base reason for that caution is to prevent others who are dangerously intolerant and exclusive.
I guess I just want people, and myself, to feel comfortable being who they are without worrying about who they have to impress to keep their identity.
Seriously, why should she care if your conversation was heteronormative or not (and you’re righy, it wasn’t)? She was just trying to puff up herself by bringing you down. And, sadly, this is something I’ve noticed that doesn’t care about race, gender, or any identity. Some people just need to bring down others to feel better about themselves.
I wish I knew more about how to deal with this, because I see it all the time.