I think that’s a reasonable reaction. My partner also suggested that being in a space where women typically get to vent, presenting as a cis male, that the things they said while unfair are just a way to let off steam. This is what I thought as well.

I think it’s important for people to be honest about their feelings. Feelings are valuable. The women’s feelings in women’s studies are most important in that context. It’s one of the few places they get to be themselves. Women are often told to hold their feelings back in order to placate others. It’s not healthy.

So I think that the author’s feelings toward that situation are valid too, but I hope that she sincerely understands the situation from both sides.

Being charitable. I believe she does, but I’d like to hear her ideas on the matter as well. I don’t want to speak for her. Maybe she has something different to say.

Also, using loaded language such as misandry and cissexism is not a good way to foster a discussion or get someone to see your side. Perhaps they as I suspected weren’t thinking of that when they wrote this. Again… screaming into the void. Perhaps they regret some of it. Perhaps not. Again, we don’t know.