In One Ear and…

Men and women are naturally wired differently — unless you’re Caitlyn Jenner. Hello, chromosomes! This science contributes to the desire of both genders to figure the other out. For women, this science has the chance to be detrimental.

“Boys go to Jupiter to get more stupider.” This taunting schoolyard rhyme left me with a solid excuse for the idiotic actions of some males. In terms of relationships, or situationships for the millennial generation, we all might have taken a trip to Jupiter.

‘fuckboy’

Honestly, I’m just trying to fathom how our parents birthed so many of them. Then again, there are times when women fall into a cycle of continuously ignoring the truth. While being subconsciously fueled by the enjoyment of a chase, or claiming victory to “taming a man”; we sometimes overlook his initial disclosure of intent. Women typically notice and take into consideration every little detail, allowing it to influence their actions and reactions. On the contrary, men are simply trying to sift through one scenario at a time. When feelings get involved, but the status doesn’t coincide, women find themselves uttering those dreaded three words: “What are we?”

FB: “I’m just going with the flow.”

FB: “Uhh. Humans?”

FB: “I just thought we was chilling?”

FB: “What you think?”

FB Text Message: ‘555–555–5555 Error: Invalid Number Please resend text using a valid 10-digit number: What are we?’

*cues Sunshine Anderson*

In some form or fashion, we’ve heard it all before. Yet still, some women turn a blind eye, and force hope that one more kiss will turn the frog into their Prince. Honestly, if you have to question the direction your situation is headed, then you shouldn’t be involved. I’m not taking sides here, there’s definitely levels to how the fuckery can unfold. “He wasn’t acting like he didn’t want anything more…” followed up with a months long laundry list of his boyfriend-like actions. Sorry to break it to you, but if a man keeps reiterating the aforementioned statements, all those actions are contradicted, meaning your choices moving forward make it to where he’s not the sole culprit to blame.

Although fuckboys seem to be the social trend at the moment, where we complain but stuck around to the point where it became something of note to mention… It all stems down to what you allow for yourself. Don’t fall into the groupthink mantra of “thirsty” and “corny” equating to the status of a gentleman. Understand, respect, and allow a man to be a man. But don’t complain about what you’ve accepted or allowed to unfold, while the truth spilled out your other ear.