How to tell if you’re a bully or a leader
In case you were confused…
If you engage in illegal or unethical acts and then pretend you’re a victim when people cry foul and you get caught, you’re a bully.
If you hold yourself and your subordinates to a high ethical standard, you are a leader.
If you don’t have the self-control to stop yourself from being abusive to people you perceive as weaker than you, you’re a bully.
If you choose to be respectful and encouraging to people you perceive as weaker than you, you’re a leader.
If you believe anything you do is acceptable and anything you don’t like is unacceptable, regardless of the ethics or legality of either side, you’re a bully.
If you hold everyone to the same standard, including yourself, you’re a leader.
If your idea of good clean fun is to gang up on someone to make their life miserable, you’re a bully.
If you stick up for people being ganged up on, you’re a leader.
If you control people through fear, manipulation, lies, and intimidation, you’re a bully.
If you inspire and motivate people through respect, encouragement, and empowerment, you’re a leader.
Before you write this off as the ramblings of an unqualified woman, know that it’s not just me who says this. It’s people like Steve Jobs, generals in our military, authors of textbooks on leadership, and writers for Harvard Business Review.
Which do you want to be, leader or bully?