“You get the presents, the bridal showers, the baby showers, we come to your weddings no matter where they are, you get the social media glory and we get silence.” That is 100% my own words. I’ve certainly felt some of that, even though I used to be married.

I can understand this if someone has never been married, and they reach a point where it is not a goal they’re interested in, and they want to do something to make up for attending everyone else’s occasions, the years of people asking you if there was ‘anyone special’ and telling you ‘hopeful’ stories of relatives that got married in their 30s. If you put up with that for 18 years, then by all means throw yourself a party at 36.

But you were married. Even if it wasn’t a big enough attention seeking hoopla that you’ve secretly dreamed of, you participated in that convention. People automatically get treated differently by friends and family once they have been married and you’ve experienced that. For five years!

You admit yourself that you subscribe to the belief marriage is something special that others can’t understand.

At the same time, when I was going through my divorce and friends were breaking up, saying, “It’s basically like I’m divorcing too.” I was like, “Um, no.”

So you belittle the experience of singledom when it suits you best, and then go and elevate it to an experience required a registry and party when it suits you better?