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Family vacation is more important then you would think
I grew up lucky enough to have parents with a love of traveling. Every year we packed up our car and headed towards somewhere new, a new adventure. Normally I wouldn’t put much meaning into these trips, but recently I had started to realize just how much they mattered. Every single trip we took, whether it was so long I got homesick or so short I didn’t want to leave, was so important in creating the healthy dynamic in my family.
The amount of memories I have from vacations is absurd. Sometimes they get jumbled up and I confuse one vacation with the other, and sometimes I completely forget about a trip I took until a memory makes its way into my mind. Each memory is fond, wether it was bad at the time or great at the time. The connection that comes with those memories is so incredible. Only my family and I will ever know the exact story, and that makes it so much more important.
When I was younger I dreaded the hiking trips my family would “make” me go on. I always convinced myself that backpacking was not for me. We would go on trail for two days and when we got back to the car at first I was relieved and then I became sad because I realized how much I enjoyed the experience. I knew I would miss the times when it was just my family, me and nature. It was something that rarely happened, but when it did it was great. Sure we didn’t always get along. Sure we got sick of each other. But in the end, it was the best bonding I could ask for. My parents found the key to parenting, at least I think so.
I decided to dig into what I thought was a jackpot for parenting. I realized that these vacations had really shaped me into who I was, so I visited parenting blogs to see what they had to say. Almost all of the posts about vacation were positive. One post I found brought forth the idea that actual cost of a vacation was not nearly as important as the cost of not going on a vacation on kids character. “A family vacation is often seen as a luxury splurge instead of an investment in your children’s character and future.” (vacation kids) This viewpoint intrigued me. Part of the reason that may people do not embark on family trips is because they do not have enough money. I feel lucky that my family is able to afford a trip once a year, and it is not fair that not everyone can share this experience.
Without them, kids can start to feel abandoned. When parents are working and kids are at school and sports, there isn’t always time for family bonding. Kids who do not see their parents can start to feel as though they are being put second to their parents jobs. That is why when parents sweep their children away it not only takes them all away from the stresses of life, but it makes kids remember what it is like to spend time with their family.
My conclusion on this topic is that family vacations are the foundation of family bonding, but they don’t need to be expensive trips. Any trip or long period of time that a family spends together is important for making memories and getting to know each other. Without these times, we forget to take the time to ask each other about how we are and what were doing in life. Especially as everyone gets older and starts to grow apart, it is important to take the time to reconnect and keep an important bond.
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Bruni, Frank. “The Myth of Quality Time.” The New York Times. The New York Times, 05 Sept. 2015. Web. 20 Mar. 2017. <https://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/06/opinion/sunday/frank-bruni-the-myth-of-quality-time.html?_r=0>.
Carr, David. “The Family Ski Trip: Why Do We Do It?” The New York Times. The New York Times, 10 Dec. 2011. Web. 20 Mar. 2017. <http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/11/travel/on-taking-the-family-skiing.html>.