61. Stop saying I’m good when people ask how are you

Edric Subur
Aug 23, 2017 · 2 min read

The most common greetings people ask is “how are you”. And the 99% response that you get is “I’m good”. Stop it.

At least not when you are in a proper environment that presents the opportunity for meaningful conversations. “How are you” is a great conversation starter to put across how you feel and set the tone for a valuable discussion. But that greeting was asked so often that it has now become more of a routine and gesture that doesn’t really mean anything.

By simply saying “I’m good”, you are not giving anyone context or clue about what to learn about you. We like to complain about how it’s hard to be heard or have deep conversation these days. But it can all start by giving a substantial response to a very common greeting.

So open up a little more. Instead of saying I’m good, pick an adjective that describes how you’re actually feeling and add the specific reason that causes that feeling. Share what you’re up to, the exciting project you’re working on, the highlights and main thoughts for the day.

Better yet, be vulnerable. If there’s anything that’s bothering you, say out loud that you are not good. Express your frustration, your anger, your sorrow. You’ll feel good for pouring your thoughts out and your conversation partner would appreciate you opening up to them. You give them chance to express empathy, reciprocate with personal stories which will eventually result in deepened relationship.

Set yourself up for meaningful conversations. Stop saying I’m good.

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