Why Do Women Love Toxic Guys?

Edwin Olu Bestman
3 min readJun 23, 2024

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Everyone would agree that a toxic guy won’t win over every woman. But why do some women find toxic guys so attractive? Who needs Mr. Nice when you can have Mr. Toxic? The “Mr. Nice Guy” and the “Mr. Toxic Guy” personas are opposites when it comes to love.

Everyone knows love is a two-way street. Why do others give enough and receive less? For different reasons, some women prefer toxic and poisonous guys over those who are willing and prepared to go to great lengths for them. Ask yourself these fascinating questions! You will discover that most women are toxic. As a result of this toxicity, they thrive in relationships where their actions are complemented.

Women dislike “Mr. Nice Guys,” in case you didn’t know. They take it on the chin when toxic guys force them to own up to their mistakes. It serves as a sense of obligation to them. If they meet “Mr. Nice Guy,” they will no longer feel any obligation. What this means is that they are unable to hold decent men responsible for their poisonous actions.

Some women may find it difficult to let go of toxic relationships because they are seeking approval, have low self-esteem, or have experienced violence in the past. They think they can improve him, transform him, and repair him. The fact that everyone is trying to prove something is obvious. For them, love entails nothing less than continual humiliation, torture, and violence.

Research shows that the majority of women find toxic guys attractive. They find delight in unhealthy relationships. Some women I’ve spoken to have told me straight out that being in a toxic relationship is satisfying. Why, I wanted to know. Exploring toxicity is enjoyable, according to one of the women. You know, like? I don’t see the humor in toxicity. Toxic people give off a terrible image and lifestyle, don’t they? What makes it so interesting? I realized then those women found exploring choices fascinating.

An example that we may use is a movie. Watching films about toxic, poisonous, and terrible guys doesn’t stop women from wanting to test them out for themselves. Everyone thinks, “Bad guys making good.” The traits of toxic and poisonous guys will remain unchanged. Also, young women, particularly those in their twenties, have little interest in “Mr. Nice Guy.” Their desire to engage in “The Do” and commune with toxic guys is undeniable. To them, it’s a great form of excitement.

The environment also has a significant role. Women who grow up in dysfunctional households and environments tend to be romantically involved with guys who do them harm. The continual betrayal, brutality, and love battles are nothing new to them. When “Mr. Nice Guy” gets in their way, it makes them feel unhealthy, neglected and sick. Their only language is that of loss, grief, ruin, and devastation.

Therefore, some women are attracted to toxic guys due to LOW SELF-ESTEEM, INTENSE ENTHUSIASM, EXCITEMENT and PAST EXPERIENCES.

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Edwin Olu Bestman

|Engineering Manager|Civil Engineer|Author|Multi-Award Winning Writer|Mathematician|Public Speaker|