Facebook’s Facade
Ahhh social media….I love you, most days. You are so great in so many ways. Social media connects me to the world. Family, friends, co-workers, classmates, exes, that random person you met that one time on the on trip, are reached in a “like”, post and click which is wonderful because in reality you know good and well you would never see some of those people ever again without them being in your friends list or in your timeline. These connections can be uplifting and supportive or messy and negative, the connective vibe on your social media is left up to you. I personally use my social media accounts for sharing my thoughts. I try to keep those thoughts positive but I ALWAYS make a choice to post only my true thoughts and my truth. You see integrity which is defined as an adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty, is a value I personally hold dear. As a child, I wanted to fit in but I never did. I was picked on horribly by the “popular” girls and was often called weird. It hurt me deeply as a child but I could not, not be completely myself. Even if I tried to fit in, the real me popped out in something I did. I couldn’t and still can’t hide the weird, just now I wear weird proud! I look back and thank my parents for that. They never made me feel anything I wanted to do was odd, they accepted me 100%. I remember I had (and still have) an obsession with clocks and watches so I wore ALL my watches to school. I mean I asked first “Mom why do people only wear one watch? I love them and want to wear all mine.” Mom with a puzzled look but 100% supportive “Okay, wear them”. There were so many more moments like that and each time mom and dad allowed me to truly “be myself” (Thanks Mom and Dad, Love you all). With that being said, I am me and it truly the only way I can be or want to be.
Now back to social media, being on a computer, behind a screen, people can choose to be who they want to be. Social media allows people to build a personality and life like children build a bear in the mall. I sit here and watch Catfish. I think to myself, NOW YOU KNOW GOOD AND DAMN WELL that you are NOT talking to the supermodel in that picture if she/he after 7 years has never met you or spoke to you on the phone. *Blank stare w/ crickets and a harsh side eye* But it’s amazing the Catfish are able to create that fake person and the person being catfished believes them because what they say sounds so good and it’s just what they want to hear. When it comes to social media like Facebook I notice people saying great things. That is wonderful! They speak their powerful stories, sometimes negativity by sharing to much or being messing, others by uplifting positive stories. I am so happy when people help others by posting positive things on social media. Personally, I admit I also look at the integrity of the person behind the post before I truly believe the positive power and energy of their post. I can only speak for myself, but I feel before ministering to others you must make sure your integrity is aligned with your words. If your integrity is not aligned with your words, you are not being your authentic self. In other words, you’re being fake. Now if you truly believe the words you are speaking or posting, great!!!! Now just line the way you are living up with your post and it’s all good. People seem to forget on Social media, people know them in real life. Acting and appearing authentic while being unauthentic in reality, only works with people who do not truly know you. The Catfish only wants people to see them in a certain way so they create that. Some people on social media want to appear a certain way so they create that…the problem is that only works so long. “You can fool some people sometimes, but you can’t fool all the people all the time.” ~Bob Marley~ Remember there are friends in your friends list that know you in real life, and if it not, there are friends in your friends list that will tell those people who truly know you in real life what you are posting. It called social media for a reason, it’s social, society can find out everything. Blocked doesn’t mean a thing when in reality people are actually talking. Look I am not judging I just feel it’s unfortunate and kind of sad when people choose to not show integrity and be real yet share and post things that aren’t aligned with the way they are truly living. It’s wonderful to share positive things but presenting a Kardashian lifestyle when not taking care of responsibilities or giving expert advice regarding topics you are having issues in is false advertising and very misleading. Cool if you are okay with that, I am not judging but the fact is it appears a bit attention seeking. Sure, you will get likes from people who don’t truly know you and your back story, but you know in your heart you’re not being authentic. For some people the “likes” seem to me more important than integrity and I feel that’s unfortunate, sad and down right disturbing. “Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free.” ~ Eckhart Tolle~ “Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?” ~Bob Marley~ Are you? Are you truly true to you? I really hope so because your authenticity is your freedom!!!! Don’t let Facebook and social media attention cause you to lie to yourself and lose yourself. “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” ~Brené Brown~
