‘Breadwinner blues’ what an apt phrase. Saving that.
Like MoJoJo1 I spent a few years carrying my marriage financially and I reached a point where I couldn’t do it anymore.
I also wound up writing him a very long letter. I’m one of those people who’s great with written words, terrible with the spoken, and I cry a lot when emotional and it’s hard for me to communicate when upset. And I couldn’t communicate for long on this issue WITHOUT getting upset.
It is a huge burden being the only income earner (even without the health insurance piece, in our case). If we have kids it will be tough for me to take time off because I earn double what he does.