
…t “in a culture that emphasizes deference, ta’arof is a verbal dance that circles around respect. … People fight over who pays the bill, seem to refuse payments for a purchase and pretend they don’…t “in a culture that emphasizes deference, ta’arof is a verbal dance that circles around respect. … People fight over who pays the bill, seem to refuse payments for a purchase and pretend they don’t want something to eat when they’re starving.”
…wo moments were the only points during the evening that crossed the line from bemusing to horrific. I was reminded of the scene in George Orwell’s 1984, when, under duress and being tortured, Winston finally starts to see four fingers as five.