There is a grossness about the process of adopting through foster care. We’re reading profiles and trying to decide if these are the right kids for us. And it hurts to say no. There is a feeling of failing, even before beginning.
We have to say no to some- we aren’t equipped, we cannot give them what they need. But it still feels gross. A child needs a home, and we will add to a long chorus of people who pass them up. And the truth is, they likely wont get what they need.
But we have an opportunity to be a home for someone who we can give what they need. So we keep sorting and searching. And it is gross.