Your point that he has been privately generous is stipulated — it is also irrelevant and far outweighed by his racist acts. His public statements going back to the Central Park 5 and the Birther movement were both ridiculously racist, not to mention his campaign ( the wall, the muslim ban). While he has had women rise to power in his organization, he is on balance a horrible misogynist and serial sexual harasser. His horrible acts and statements far outweigh any individual good acts he may have done. So while it would certainly be a lie to say that Trump is ALWAYS racist or ALWAYS misogynist or ALWAYS xenophobic, it is very true that on balance, and publicly, he has been all of these things. I will suggest he is a complicated man who has sometimes done good things, but on balance, he is not a good man.