Thank you thank you thank you for writing this. To understand that the gaslighting had continued even during no contact and was what led to restoring contact and opening myself up to it again was the final piece of the puzzle I needed to really understand what was happening.
In my situation, there was never even any official relationship, just a mess of confusion and emotional entanglement. I understand now that gaslighters will gaslight anyone they are emotionally invested with.
You’ve helped me — freed me — and I’m sure you’ve helped countless others. Thank you.