I dunno, Kris — perhaps you had the good fortune to not be brought up in a punitive, religious context. A tendency toward shame (over anger or fear) may be hard-wired in some people, but I don’t think shame is all that hard to grok. We live in a culture steeped in messages of “you aren’t enough”, “you’ll never measure up”, and “you haven’t earned it”. This is a large part of what I call “internalized capitalism”, a perception that we are all goods to be consumed, looking for others to consume as goods, and there’s nothing that’s not transactional. Mix capitalism and Christianity together, and you have a perfect recipe for shame. I find it difficult to accept that there’s truly anyone in this society immune to these messages. On the other hand, I don’t get anger in the same way you don’t get shame, and yet there are some people who seem to have been angry from the moment they emerged from the womb.