“What if instead, we learned to be happy with ourselves? What would happen?…Think of how this might simplify your life. Think of how many self-improvement books you read, or listen to in the car. Think of how many products you buy to make yourself better. Think of how many things you read online, in the hopes of being better. Think of how many things you do because you feel inadequate. Think of how much time this would free up, how much mental energy.”
I’d love to say it’s human nature, but really it’s cultural — and not even in a good way. Because short of churning out the sort of icons we think we’ll become, we just spend years agonizing over our perceived shortcomings. Even if we see improvement, the comparisons and external markers follow, and it’s a chase.