Trust The Process

This won’t exactly be an earth-shattering first post, but this was definitely something I thought about and wanted to put down on paper (Or screen). The feeling of losing, is far more intense than the feeling of winning. Since I’m just another average Joe, I’m speaking in terms of a fan and not as an athlete, so perhaps if I was on a professional team that won or lost in a championship, my opinion may change. I sat down to watch the Super bowl really hoping that the Atlanta Falcons would beat the New England Patriots. I really hate the Patriots. I hate how good they are, I hate that they always win, and I’m just sick of everything going right for them all the time. Maybe they lost twice to the Giants and maybe in one of those cases was the result of one of the greatest catches of all time, but they’ve got it pretty good, especially that quarterback guy. By halftime, I was sitting pretty good. I’ve seen a couple football games here and there so I knew you can never really count the other team out, especially Tom Terrific but it was a pretty substantial lead. The way I was thinking about it, had the rest of the game flowed by casually, the Falcons would win and I’d be pretty happy. I would have also won a bit of money too, but that is beside the point. The point is, the Patriots won, and probably in the most crushing way a team can win, since they came back from such a large deficit, forced overtime, and won in the extra minutes.

I’m originally from Philadelphia, and I experienced the dichotomy of winning and losing in consecutive years in 2008 and 2009. In 2008, the Phillies were presumably the best team in baseball. Their pitching rotation was incredible, and they had a great balance of power, speed, and effectiveness in their lineup. I remember following closely the whole season thinking maybe this is actually the year I see one of my teams win a championship. They ended up winning the world series on a three-inning game against Tampa-Bay, and I remember feeling an overwhelming sigh of relief, which I didn’t really understand. I was definitely happy. I just thought that maybe I would be jumping up and down, overflowing with joy that wouldn’t dissipate for at least another month. But a couple of days later, it was in the past, nobody spoke about it, and that was it. The following year in 2009, the Phillies made it to the world series again, this time against the New York Yankees — and most people felt that they, the Yankees, were the best team. The Yankees went on to win in 6 games, and I was crushed. Still high off the previous years championship, I thought maybe they could repeat and win again, but that was short lived. I was VERY upset, and for a couple weeks after. At some point in those couple weeks, I realized how much more intense the feelings of despair and sadness were rather than my feelings of happiness and joy just a year earlier. I couldn’t really understand why it was that way — just that that was how I was feeling.

Fast forward to today, I’m 23 and graduating college soon, and I’m going through a lot of different processes for the first time. I’m going through the process of transitioning from college to the real world, the process of finding a job, the process of leaving the home I grew up in and living on my own — many changes. Thinking about how I felt back in 2009 brought me to a conclusion about winning, losing, and life in general: The winning and losing are important parts of the cycle of life — because there IS winning and losing. But what is more important than that, is the process, or journey of how you get there. All too often, myself included, we are focused on Point B, and how we were at point A but all we want to do is get to Point B. We don’t stop to look around and how we are going to get there and the different actions we take in order to do so. There is a super famous quote from Ferris Bueller’s Day Off which everyone knows and that is, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t slow down every once and a while and look around, you might miss it.” It’s just so true, and I think I’m finally realizing it now and taking the time to look around, and notice the processes of my endeavors and how I’m getting there.

The Philadelphia 76ers have been notoriously bad for the last few years. Sam Hinkie, their ex-General Manager adopted the phrase “Trust The Process”, which meant forget about how we suck so much because we’re going to draft the best player and be great in a bunch of years. It’s really hard to get behind that, because as a fan all you want is for your team to win. Now in 2017, things are finally looking like they’re starting to come together and the process that we have been trusting may actually be coming into fruition. I’m writing this as I’m wearing a blue-hooded sweatshirt with a 76ers logo in the middle and words around the logo saying “Trust The Process.”

The 76ers may be really good in a couple years, and they also may continue sucking — but whatever the outcome, and this goes for my journey in life as well, I’ll be trusting the process.