When we want to enact fundamental change, especially socially, it’s often under the (usually subconscious) belief that these solutions we have would guarantee a life of permanent happiness and no unhappiness, i.e. all positivity, no negativity. Because of this, we rarely take into account that it could bring up other problems we didn’t even consider.
For example, when the Internet started becoming popular, there was a lot of rejoicing and claims that we’ll become a better world because of the ease of connecting to others worldwide. No one considered that the ease of connection also makes it easier to offend and be offended. No one considered that trolling would become part of how the Internet works.
Feminism’s going through something similar — the call for women to be equal to men lead to more freedom for them. What women didn’t take into account was that because they gained more freedom, the game adapted to accommodate this. So what worked to gain their ideal man back in the day changed too.
Given that we humans are habitual creatures, this is naturally uncomfortable for both women and men.
Given also that changes to fundamental habits has a “pain period” before we become more comfortable with them, it makes sense to err… see it through. It’ll take as long as it takes, it’ll get as intense as it gets, but part of gaining freedom is becoming more aware of its uncomfortable places.
If we see it through and it turns out that it ain’t right for us, then we can discard it. But we have to see it through anyway.
With more solutions come more problems, and with more problems come more solutions.