Be the heartbroken
I’d rather be the heartbroken than the heart breaker.
When your heart is broken, you often wallow in your sadness. You can play the victim and act as though the universe is against you. But the truth is, you are better off being broken than doing the breaking, so wipe the tears and get back on your feet.
I’m a firm believer in putting yourself in others shoes. After the dust settled, I tried to imagine the pain he was feeling. I’d like to hope that he too was sad and broken. Not because I wanted him to feel the pain but so I knew the last 10 years were actually what I believed they were.
I compared every feeling that I felt, established the cause and tried to imagine what I would feel had I caused that damage to another human being that I once loved. In every scenario, I quickly realized that I’d rather be the “victim”.
As the heartbroken, I have no regrets. I have no demons. I have no dark grey cloud over my head.
As the heartbroken, you can build back up again. You have no guilt, you have no secrets and you have no ghosts. You don’t have to run, hide or lie. You can simply pick yourself off the ground, stand up and learn to love again.
Although it sucks to be the heartbroken, I wouldn’t change it for the latter.
