THIS. We are damned if we do, damned if we don’t. As someone who has gone through the process of reporting sexual assault to the authorities not once but twice, I can assure you it’s not fun — it can be even less fun than the original crime itself. If that’s the reaction I get when I report sexual harassment/assault to people who are paid to care, what’s the point of reporting it to people who aren’t?
That’s mostly a rhetorical question, of course, because Ken enumerated plenty of valid reasons…but I don’t blame any victim for not wanting to endure the ridicule, shame and defensiveness that all too often results when women report this crap.