What do with do with the pain?

There is an old saying that people do not change until they are forced to change.

Humans are hard headed people. We often get complacent and we get stuck in our fixed mindset. We lose sight of the bigger picture.

We lose focus…


We all have a dark side. I’ll be the first to admit it…If you have followed my Instagram for a while, you’ll know that I was repeatedly sexually abused as a child by my father. My mother is still with him to this day…That type of abuse, collusion and rejection…


Once upon a time, a little girls life was turned upside down and her world changed forever.

Her daddy began to molest her…it happened time and time again. It tormented her. Soon the little girl learned to dissociate when this happened. When she dissociated, she was instead “hovering” somewhere else…


What does resilience mean?

Resilience doesn’t mean being happy or positive all the time, but rather being able to get up once life has knocked us around. But once we experience an adversity or prolonged stress, we need time to bounce back When thinking about resilience, it is also good…


Change – why it’s fabulous!

There’s almost 10 years between these two photos. A lot of change has occurred between the brunette and the blonde (I went blonde to cover the incredible amount of grey!) …


Paradigm Shifts and Attention Management

I’m going to let you into a little secret, you’re attention determines the experiences you have, and the experiences you have determine the life you live. You must control your attention to control your life….Today, in a world where so many experiences are blended together…


If you’ve loved and lost…

(In memory of Marcus ‘Mac’ McPherson ~ 7th September 1970 – 24th September 2020)

My Sister and Mac. Mac passed away after a 2 year battle with cancer. He had served for Queen and Country and leaves behind two daughters. My sister loved him in…


Porn

Pornography is a major industry across the globe, bringing in billions of dollars annually. The popular site PornHub stated that it received 33.5 billion visits last year alone.

Have you ever wondered what effects consuming adult content can have on your health? The main concerns I read about are…


(Trigger warning ⚠️)

Being a parent after your experience of Childhood (Sexual, Physical and Emotional) Abuse…

Childhood Abuse can cast a long shadow over your life influencing your emotional state, how you relate to others and how you parent your own children.


Have you ever asked yourself the BIG question, “what is love?”

It’s one of the most perplexing of all of the human experiences and It seems the more we learn about love, the more we don’t understand it. The reality is that love can mean something different to everyone. …

Ella McCrystal

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