Whether you set out to find an older man or it just happened, there is a lot to be learned in a relationship with a bit of an age gap. In some cases, a variation in ages can make the relationship more complicated, but more often than not, the age range is beneficial to both parties. So, if you are interested in pursuing an older man or are currently in a relationship with a mature fellow, focus on what you have to learn from the relationship and make the best of the experience.
1. Age really is just a number.
When it comes down to it, age really is much less important than maturity. And, don’t be fooled and assume another individual will be more mature just because he is older. When you’re in a meaningful relationship, particularly with an older and more mature man, you’ll discover the benefit of emotional maturity that involves empathy, vulnerability, and even effective communicative. These are the primary components to a lasting, fulfilling relationship.
2. Sharing a life perspective is essential.
Whether you’re dating someone of the same age or not, sharing a perspective on life is essential. If one of you is solely focused on professional development and mildly interested in personal fulfillment, the relationship won’t go far. Likewise, if you can’t come to similar terms on your understanding and appreciation of aging, especially if you are in somewhat different life stages, you won’t be able to make it work. Be sure to spend time sharing your goals and dreams, which is also an element of maturity.
3. Mutual appreciation goes a long way.
You’ve probably been in a relationship in which you were the only one working on the relationship. Or, maybe you’ve experienced a relationship in which you were constantly being underestimated. Neither of these situations is the foundation for lasting or fulfilling relationship. As you make a commitment to a relationship be sure that you each have a mutual relationship of one another and the relationship itself prior to devoting yourself to the relationship or another person. This is especially important when you are pursuing an older man because it’s likely that he might underestimate your intelligence or worth as an equal individual. Don’t let anyone take advantage of your value.
4. Communication is fundamental to any relationship.
Effective communication is fundamental to any relationship, but especially one that involves a bit of an age difference. There are always lots of things to discuss in a relationship, but the topics become even more varied when you and your partner are in different life stages. If you’re not able to discuss topics that range from everyday experiences to far off fears like dying, your relationship likely won’t last very long. It’s also important that you both are able to express what you’d like to get out of the relationship.
5. Time is precious.
One of the bittersweet realities of dating an older man is realizing how precious time is. Because you are already in different life stages, the reality of the time that you have left will be even more apparent to you. This could put a damper on the relationship for some individuals, but you just need to allow this realization to encourage you to make the most of every moment.
You can learn a lot from any relationship, but you’ll learn even more when you are seeing an older man. Love is a funny thing, but it just keeps getting more beautiful with age, especially if you allow yourself to enjoy it for what it is.